Finding "just right" in my life's porridge

February 16, 2010

Getting started at the end

Filed under: Uncategorized — Moving On @ 12:50 am

“I keep hearing about this, but it’s the first time I’ve seen it,” said a lady who came to pick up a bunk bed I gave away on  “It” is the result of job loss, bankruptcy, financial ruin, the prelude to foreclosure — and to the frightening prospect of being homeless in just ten days.

What happens?  What does it feel like?  How did we get here?  And how do others respond to the circumstances that brought us here, and our reactions to them?

That’s what I’ll talk about.

I want to hear from you.  Just a few rules, though.

Number 1:  Be kind.  Period.

Number 2:  Please, no political rants here.

Number 2:  Share. Advise.  Empathize.  But search your own heart and motive before you share God’s word here.  Keep it in context, and speak the truth in love.





  1. How exciting! Glad you have an outlet for your writing!

    This reminds me of when we lost our first baby. People HAVE to say something, and in the lack of experience or belief they have great wisdom, we were “helped” with such comments as:

    “Well, it’s for the best.” (Of course–but we’re dying right now, can you let me know how happy you are AS your house is burning…?)

    “God knew you couldn’t afford a baby right now.” (You don’t think I’d take a second job if I honestly believed God could possibly be that cruel?)

    “Are you going to try again?” (Right now? Do you want a schedule?)

    Comment by Timm Artus — February 23, 2010 @ 6:05 pm | Reply

  2. Everyone is worried about you Jean. And, no, none of us really know the right thing to say. But the fact that we say something is probably more important. We’ll stick our feet in our mouths but that just means that we’re stupid, not that we don’t care. We do care. We want you to come through this and be better than ever. We are thinking of you.

    Comment by Walker — February 24, 2010 @ 3:49 pm | Reply

    • Thanks. But honestly, the purpose of the blog is not to whine, but to let people know what this whole process is like, beginning to end. So many have said things like, “I had no idea it was like this”. Others assume it must be out fault, that we didn’t work hard enough or long enough, or that we just made a lot of bad choices. I really do want to educate, not in a vengeful way, that this indeed is life in America for many more than we’d like to think. We’re learning the truth of that the hard way. And J, I’d really appreciate your thoughts from your perspective on the economy. And no worries, you’ve said all the right things. Welcome to the framily.

      Comment by shujeans — February 24, 2010 @ 5:59 pm | Reply

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